We all know the stereotypes: teenagers are lazy, hormone-ridden, emotionally unstable, irrational creatures. But what’s really going on in the teenage brain and how does knowledge of this developmental process help us to foster a better relationship with our teenage children? Join James today for an exploration of these issues with (unlicensed) mental health counselor, entrepreneur and best-selling author, Lainie Liberti.
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Transformative Mentoring for Teens
Seen, Heard & Understood: Parenting & Partnering with Teens for Greater Mental Health
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My teenaged daughter is 35 already – too bad most girls/women are too smart to tune into your content. Eugenics is the tough love that works ww.
My teenaged children are about 35 already – too bad most “kids” of all ages are way too smart to tune into your content. Eugenics is the tough love that works ww.
This is why I don’t like Solutions Watch.
Iamfreeiamme – I am free to be a twinkie.
You go, girl.
Why? What didn’t you like about it?
Well, first off, “Ice Age,” mocked my user name and called me a slut (Twinkies are cream filled.)
I have an issue when (unlicensed) “Mental Health Counselor”s want to give you advice on raising your children.
You can be an Anarchist, and also jump through all the hoops to get a license. Even if you think licenses are b.s.
The anarchist community is infested with anarcho-grifters.
Life coaches, and people who just woke up one day and decided to become mental health counselors, should concern anyone who considers themselves an anarchist/voluntaryist/agorist.
Even if State mandates and regulations are removed, there’s still apprenticeships, internships, mentorships, and disciplined courses of study that someone has to go through to adequately provide services to other people, especially if the services are related to health / mental health. And super especially if this person wants to advise people on how to raise their children.
When I brought this up on Corbett’s YouTube channel, the Anarcho-grifters came after me with ad hominem attacks.
They even went back to edit the comments to intensify the ad hominem attacks.
…which just proves how toxic this environment is.
Do you really want someone who has unresolved mental health issues guiding you with advice on how to raise your children?
Why throw your children to the toxic wolves?
By all means, raise Free Range children.
But, can we not see beyond the sales pitch, here?
I can’t be the only person who sees how toxic this woman is.
To quote Bob Dylan “You don’t need a Weather Man to know which way the wind blows.”
You literally do not need advice from this toxic hippie lady on your own children.
Had they just been classy and compassionate on YouTube, I would not have felt the need to come here to clarify my position.
At least that comment exchange exposed how toxic they are.
Don’t throw your children under the Anarcho-Grifter Swamp bus.
Abigale Shrier wrote a pretty good book “Bad Therapy “ about how therapy is like any other drug and can make some people worse off…..I have never met anyone involved in psychiatry that was normal. The mental health industry attracts weirdos like flies on, honey.
Elaborating on licensing, in general:
There’s plenty of anarchist / voluntaryist/ agorists who own businesses that are legitimate.
Electricians, carpenters, any number of blue collar jobs, they have to submit to apprenticeships and years of practice and study to become competent in their trade.
Lots of people will go through a licensing program, that they may not agree with, just so the State will leave them alone so they can make money.
You can be an anarchist and own a restaurant, but you would want to keep it clean and follow a food safety protocol, not just to be compliant with the State Health Department, but because you have standards and care about your customers.
I get the sense with a lot of these Anarcho-grifter Life Coach / Mental Health Counselors, that they don’t actually care about other people.
I get the sense that they’re lazy, want to make a lot of money, and also have serious mental health issues themselves.
Like, the whole reason *why* they became a “Mental Health Counselor” was because they, themselves, had mental health issues.
Now they’re going to set up a business and try to assert mental control over your children.
It’s concerning.
I was fascinated by the fact that James, whom I respect so much, promoted this. So, after watching the clip, I looked up her, and her son. They have done a 2 man Ted Talk, and lots of online clips. Of course, the dad is not in the picture. He split when the boy was 8. He is 27 now, and doing what she does. Looks like Psycho-babble and grifting. (When you need someone to affirm your gender transition, you may want to call them). However, I must say, I was surprised to see how normal he seemed in his latest videos.
I say surprised, because she is clearly warped and damaged, and held him so close.
As far as this interview went, the best piece of advice, one which bears repeating, came from James, not her. “Remember, the kids will do as you do, not as you say.”
I’ve been struggling with this interview and Solutions Watch, in general. Because Corbett gives these shady people a platform.
Who is he going to host next? Flat Earth Dave? Might as well.
There are plenty of legitimate people from the anarchist community that he could be interviewing, instead of these grifters. What about all these permaculturists?
Maybe Corbett is using reverse psychology on us? Maybe he’s exposing and not promoting?
It’s hard to tell, because I can’t get through these repellent interviews without dry heaving. (I’m being hyperbolic)
The anarchist community is a mixed bag. There’s tons of sincere, hardworking people who just want the state to leave them alone.
And then there’s tons of these broken opportunists, who are toxic to the bone, looking to take advantage of vulnerable people. And many of those people offer life coaching services.
You just have to be careful, and on your guard. Because they come at you like they want to be your friend. They’re “friendly.” They’re not your friend. They have no intention to become your friend. Their only interest in you is if 1) you have money 2) to separate you from your money.
Otherwise they literally do not care if you live or die.
These people will grab your wallet and push you off a cliff.
They do not care about you. At all.
In her quirky way, she is quite formidable. That may recede sharply as her cuteness dissolves with age.
I think she did really well, finding a way to soothe her personal pain. But, what she has done with her husband and her only child is not something that merits all of this bragging and rationalization. Most of all, it does not provide a basis for tending to other people’s suffering, and writing and talking about mental health.
PS You don’t need to give them money to be their ‘friend.’ They will also accept ego strokes and publicity as a form of exchange. Did you see the TED Talk? Or interviews with the boy, since he has attained adulthood?
Solutions Watch is a worthy concept, but I agree, it does not always pan out.
“In her quirky way, she is quite formidable.”
Of course. Because sales is a skill. Especially if what you’re selling has no real value to the customer. That takes an enormous amount of gall and ruthlessness to sell a service to people that has questionable results.
Anarcho-grifter Life Coaches and (unlicensed) Mental Health Counselors are on par with professional psychics, reiki practitioners and homeopathic practitioners.
There’s a lot of placebo effect in their services.
I’ve met a few at these conferences. They’re the worst people I’ve ever met in my life.
And I grew up in Los Angeles. Around Entertainment Industry people.
Yes, getting involved with people like that is wading into treacherous waters. But, in my book they are not THE worst people in the world. I am more disturbed by our ‘medical professionals’ and ‘authorities’. Even the local politicians rank lower than Lainie Liberti, et al, for me. I didn’t have much direct contact with the former until my wife opted to visit the hospital about three years ago. She banned me from going on subsequent visits, as I was drawing mustaches on their resume photos, and muttering every time I saw a mask or had to deal with any of their ‘best practices.’ The first thing you do when you arrive is sign away all your rights and sign off on their immunity from responsibility when things don’t improve as advertised. The parasites that you referred to, at least don’t have legal and big media power to amplify their incompetence and deceit.
PS I witnessed the rise of the New Age grifters at the end of the 60’s and the 70’s. It was even more rampant then. “Hey, what’s your sign”? And the people were even more self-deluded with the ‘sacredness’ of the drugs that everyone was taking. But to our credit, gender re-assignment hadn’t caught on, WAP was not a number 1 hit…
I did actually find her TED talk, with her son.
It was infuriating.
The son was still in his teens at the time of the filming of that talk, and he sounds like a Stockholm Syndrome victim.
That story they’re telling about taking a ride on that vehicle on active train tracks, and that if a train started coming they would have to jump off and hope that they weren’t on a bridge or in a tunnel, or they would die.
They tell that story like it’s just a fun adventure. Not like this woman put her adolescent son in harms way, or anything. It’s all fine. Right?
It’s one thing to put yourself into danger, knowingly.
It’s a completely different thing to put your child into a dangerous situation, like this.
Because children can’t consent, and they generally trust their parents.
She knew there was a chance that a train could endanger their lives. She put her child on that, knowing this, that they could both die. She did it anyway.
…and gave a TED talk about it.
Like we should all congratulate and applaud her because she’s taking risks and saying “Yes” to everything.
Now, Life Coaching is what the son knows, to make money. So he’s continuing the grift.
It’s sad.
Enthusiasm sprinkled with pop psychology and other scientisms.
Glad she is doing this work but it is always creepy to me to see adults dressing like adolescents :-/
The pitfalls of giving people a pass, based on their nominally espousing your preferred ideology…
(I heard having a father, as well as brothers and sisters, statistically are the top factors in fostering sane and successful progeny).
You gots 20/20 hearing 🙂
Have a good Thanksgiving if you are inclined.
Happy Thanksgiving to you…
Never a dull topic on The Corbett Report. Working with thoroughbreds on a couple of race tracks in America was very much like raising teenagers. I had to work with goats that helped work with horses. High strung horses never stopped penetrating their boundaries. Exploring their environment to find and discover outlets for their mentally active personalities. The goats were surrogate mentors to help the over active, underdeveloped mentalities. Yes , horses can be mental and the spectrum is wide and long. Teenagers are just as mental. The environment has as much formative power as the breeding has . Teens are as much pray as horses and having a goat around helps mentor the beast when the ultimate caretaker is not at hand for any perceived crisis that might arrive. Teens have a constant barrage of crisis , if you have one you know what I mean.
Training your teenager is work a caretaker or parent must pay close attention to. A life may depend on its successful application. A horse will try to rebel, escape the control of a rider at the slightest threat or opportunity to be free of control, while at the same time desperately trying to return to the security of his stall and caretaker . If spooked a horse will run away from a rider , going berserk all the way back home. A goat on the other hand will run to the sheppard, join with the caretaker awaiting their directions.
Over lording a teen is not a bad thing. Life’s to precious and development doesn’t offer but few chances to get it right.
Maybe Lainie can be a goat to poorly breed environmentally deficient children of underdeveloped self absorbed deficient parents .Wish her well.
I enjoyed hearing her thoughts on empowerment rather than persuasion. A refreshing change from the smartypants values that traditional education fosters.
No one seems to want to take responsibility for the “teen crisis” that is going on hey? They aren’t some sort of sub-species that just appeared.
Prior to the 60’s there were no “teenagers.” There were adults, young adults, and kids. The controllers in their pathological but brilliant quest to take over humanity created these current cliche’ divisions.
Like most things in our culture the sweetness of the original “Rock and Roll” was bastardized into profit mongering, ego, narcissistic, sex, not relationship oriented nonsense. It has been like most things supported by all the leaches who profit off of it…main stream media, movies, music equipment sellers, and on and on.
To “Live like a Rock Star” is the mantra used to help profit.
So every pimple faced jerk who can play three chords and afford thousands of dollars of band and recording equipment believes he has his shot at getting laid and “going platinum.” Or any chick with the correct body proportions and a half way decent voice (we’ll fix it in the mix) and willing to whore herself out can “go platinum” also.
This is our life folks. Just like tomorrows turkey thermometer will pop up when finished, we have scores of “thermometers” popping up across our nation…
* SF and other CA cities have a majority of their businesses boarded up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jyhTzUi-0VY) due to theft and dangerous conditions from the 13% who have been given free reign everywhere for bad behavior.
* Congress is sold out and we are bombing fishing boats a thousand miles away on the order of our narcissistic, ego driven dangerous president.
* Our fiat currency is worth about 10% of what it was compared to when I was a young man and we are on the verge of an economic collapse https://methodshop.com/what-does-a-trillion-dollars-look-like/
* Our medical establishment kills tens of thousands every year.
So yeah, teens became a commodity and are moving into a world that doesn’t give a crap about them beyond that. But hey, 100 years from now we will ALL be gone. 🙂
GENERATION BLUE (song)
https://old.bitchute.com/video/OnxwS4Ydq3p4/
Motown took clean boys in 4 part harmonies in Philly to Let’s Get It On in 1973. Rap went through a similar path of happy Hip Hop then transformed into Gangsta Rap degeneracy. The little hat people can take the nicest stuff and corrupt it.
Indeed, but yet they choose to play the victim role all the time hey? :-/
Back in the early 90’s my co-writer and I got best R&B in a competition.
ALWAYS IN LOVE WITH YOU (song)
https://old.bitchute.com/video/HOWWCZefRypI/
I have often looked back at my teenage years…the attitudes, perspectives, anxieties, the hormones.
The brain is still developing probably into the age of 26.
There is a lot of maturing that occurs while one travels the road of life.
Definitely a good take-away point to have the long-term goal in mind to raise young people that think for themselves and cherish freedom and self-responsibility over convenience and slavery. My daughter is 6 years old atm and I consider myself very lucky that she is growing up as a good-natured, non-violent child, who expresses her own volition regularly (which can be demanding on us as parents).
If anyone would like to chip in on one point that is on my mind regularly, I’d really appreciate that – I also kind of remember JC brushing that topic in the past:
My daughter really loves role-playing and fantastical creatures and still firmly believes in imaginary characters and beings (unicorns, fairies, superheroes, Santa Claus/the “Christkind” here in Germany). Mostly due to the fact that most of her close relatives (e.g. her mom, grandparents, aunts…) really enjoy engaging in those fictions (mostly even come up with new ones, e.g. some kind of leprachaun living near the grandparent’s house, which is both a pen-pal and also sends her regular small gifts). I don’t have anything against fantasy per se and appreciate its merit (e.g. in allegorizing or methaphorizing certain points within stories or as tools of narration – a Tolkien book is brilliant – but its setting is clearly placed in a different world/realm – which is not the case for many spurious, sloppy works of nowadays fiction, especially in kids’ entertainment, which are often interwoven into our world). I don’t want to thwart her imagination and wonder or prohibit anyone from engaging my daughter in this kind of play, but I don’t really feel comfortable in fueling this kind of interaction. There are plenty of wonderous and great things to explore in our actual plane of reality and I am also agnostically open to (spiritual) things beyond our physical reach, but I’m not a fan of believing (or playfully making someone believe) in clearly nonsensical fiction which is not clearly explained as such. Whenever I see the “knowing” conspiratorial grins and glances exchanged among the adults, when some kind of “fairy” or Santa brings my daughter some gift, I cannot really feel the same joy. If you really think about it: Is this obfuscation, is this betrayal and lying? Is this a cultural psy-op to introduce a predetermined breaking point of the trust between child and parents/grandparents at some point, when the child finds out the truths beyond those empty stories and rituals? Is my discomfort exaggerated? Do I rob her of a lively imagination, hope and escape mechanisms from a potentially traumatizing world, if I carefully take small steps towards grounding her more in reality or just seclude myself from this dimension of play? Maybe to those with grown up or older children: how did you handle those topics in your families?
lol my wife was mad when I told the kids there was no Santa….but on the other hand I once told them whippet dogs were created as very fast Spit Dogs in order to whip cream in the Middle Ages so im not perfect 🙂
I wouldn’t worry too much about fantasy or Santa but I WOULD worry about checking the books your kid gets from the library because there is a lot of creepy stuff in some of the new kids and Young Adult books and the ick is often hidden behind titles and covers that pass a parents eye. I ended up checking every fiction book they got on Amazon at one point.
haha, the whippet dogs thing is really funny… 😀
I definitely check the boooks from the library, as I definitely experienced taht some rather unpleasant subjects and propaganda keeps popping up more and more (also have to check the school books, especially in higher grades, seems that they are really awful and ideologically charged, especially in terms of the whole climate change hoax story and of course never allowing real criticism towards state power or the education system itself…)
There is a Santa Claus. He’s a spirit or spiritual force that creates a magic time to show love for everyone. People use time, feeling, effort, imagination and intuition to create a time of joy for others through Santa inspiration It’s what you put into it that counts. I knew at 5 years of age but it never bothered me in any way. It’s not the physical but the magic and spirit that makes real.
This was our attitude with our children. When the 12 year old found out, I explained this and that it was sad most people just didn’t understand.
But I know everyone is different.
My daughter in law felt betrayed by the deception. But she still loves the Holiday Season more than ever. I think she’s knowing.
A couple of years ago I bought the “Tuttle Twins” series of books for my kids, after watching Connor Boyack on The Corbett Report. They showed absolutely no interest in them.
Then two weeks ago (now aged 12 and 9) they snuck down the stairs at 10.30pm to tell me that they’d just started reading the books and that they love them and can’t wait to get through them all. My 12-year old even suggested that we have a Tuttle Twins party where I read the books to them and we all talk about the issues together! “The Tuttle Twins think just like you do, Mummy!” she said.
Honestly, I think I parent best by just doing nothing.
There’s no such thing as a “teenager”, that’s just more age segregation. Children rebel against parents because parents think they own children. James, why don’t you find Roslyn Ross and interview her? She wrote a fantastic book “Theory of Objectivist Parenting”, that easily explains that the best possible relationship you can have with your children is one of a mentor, where anything you want your child to do, you do instead, you do the things you think are important, and have them watch, and then they choose either to do what you do, or do something better, something you never ever thought of. There is nothing to decode, other than parents use force, either positive or negative “reinforcement”, but force either way. Force is the problem. There is nothing to decode, if you use force on ANYONE, you are the problem. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQNKmkCnPb4
Anyone that has bizarre piercings and painted on eyebrows should not be giving advice, as that’s just a sure sign of poor decision making, attention seeking behavior, and promiscuity. There are normal people that are anarchists too, why is this put in front of people, this reminds me of the hippy movement in the 60s being created to be against the war in Vietnam, so that everyone would think that to be against war, you’d have to be a jobless, homeless, showerless, sex-craved, drug-craved “hippie”, to discredit all the normal people that were against war. Anyway, anyone interested in real philosophy should get Roslyn Ross’s book, A Theory of Objectivist Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/Theory-Objectivist-Parenting-Roslyn-Ross/dp/1502315548/ref=sr_1_1
I get nothing if you buy the book other than hopefully some more normal people to hang out with in the future.
lol, the commments on this make me think this will be a funny show.
Can’t wait to listen
Slavespeak
Her crazy person eyes, kindergarten teacher voice and mannerisms put me off more then the facial piercing TBH.
I would never let a kid of mine near this lady….i am sorry for whatever made her like that but that’s the truth.
TBH if you’re starting to take kid training seriously only when they become teens your wayyyy too late anyway- the teen years are when you have the sometimes difficult flowering of the seeds you planted when they were little.
The difference between people who take this person seriously and the vast majority of humans throughout history is that it was once understood that a parents job is to train their offspring to have the traits that will help them have Positive life outcomes.
You need need to train kids, like you train puppies so that when they get to be teens they don’t do too many retarded things and screw up their life. You’re not in partnership, you are responsible for them and unless you instill good behaviors they will suffer and it will be YOUR fault.
I hate how people selfishly push their responsibility off on others- day cares and schools and counselors and electronics ect, because they were too afraid or too selfish to instill proper behaviors in the little people they made. If you don’t parent your kid someone will, someone who doesn’t have their best interests at heart.
No public school. No unsupervised Internet access.
Raise your kids before you send them into the world or the world will raise them for you.